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4 Factors to Consider When Making Life Decisions
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Maybe it’s what job to take, what career to explore, who to date, who to marry, or what to do with an unplanned pregnancy… Depending on the stage of life you’re in, these life decisions can be big.

We understand.  We help women and their partners navigate choices about pregnancy options and relationships almost every day. 

Sometimes life decision can have an impact on your future and your relationships in both negative and positive ways.  For this reason, it’s important to take some time to think about what you wish to do so you can feel confident in your decision(s) as you move forward in your life.

Here are four factors that are helpful to consider when making life decisions:

1) Information

Our centre is pro-information.  We encourage our clients to do a bit of sleuthing to find out as much as they can to prepare themselves for what may come as a result of their decisions and choices.  No matter what life decision you are making, finding out as much as possible about the different directions you can go in and the different choices you can make will help you make a fully informed decision.  Knowing as much as you can will also help you emotionally prepare and feel more confident in the direction you choose to go.

2) Goals

Everyone wants to do well in life, to move forward and be successful at achieving what they hope to.  In one way or another, we all have goals.  Whether our goals or ambitions are to achieve lots of admirable things, achieve some admirable things, or to not have goals or ambitions, we all have an idea of what we want our life to look like and we make choices daily that either help us get there or don’t help us get where we want to be. 

Considering your goals when you make a life decision is quite natural in many situations.  Often our first concern is that life decisions may interfere with us reaching our goals. It’s important to consider whether it’s possible to find ways to achieve your goals while pursuing new life directions or other avenues.  Is there still a way to finish your education while taking on a dream job prior to finishing your degree?   Do the life decisions you’re making still allow you to achieve your financial, relational, personal goals?

3) Values

Values and goals can be closely related for many people.  Sometimes they overlap.  Some of our goals may also be to live out our values.  What we value is important to us.  Just like goals, many people make choices daily that help them live out what is significant to them.  Values are central to an individual and they don’t often change very quickly or frequently.  They are more often developed throughout life based on upbringing, family of origin, religion and/or experiences. 

Because what we value is often most important to us and who we are, it’s also essential to consider our values when making life decisions.  In any situation, is there a way for us to make our life decisions align with who we are and what we value?

4) Future

Naturally, when we think about making big life decisions we think about our future, at least in some respects.  Sometimes it’s easy to think about our futures with certain ‘big’ life decisions.  But if it’s not a big decision we can quickly make a decision without a thought.  Though often not detrimental, our decisions and actions (even the small and insignificant ones) can have an influence on our lives and the lives of those around us.  So, if you have a decision to make, visualizing your future and how the different choices you can make will influence it (and could influence your relationships or those around you) is also a valuable exercise to help you process your decisions and ultimately feel confident in the choices you make.

Although this article is generally focused on any life decisions, if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy (whether you think it’s ‘a big life decision’ or ‘not a significant decision at all’) know that we are here to provide any support you feel you need as you evaluate your options.  Call, email, text or chat with us today!

 

New Year, New Goals: How to Keep Your Resolutions

New Year… new you… new goals! Right?

The new year is a great time to look back on last year and prepare for the upcoming year.  People get excited about making new goals and resolutions and swear they “won’t be doing that again!”; especially when it comes to relationships.  It seems that resolutions related to physical fitness are most popular.  But people also resolve to make healthy choices and routines related to their own mental, emotional and/or spiritual health as well. 

Sometimes it doesn’t last very long though.  Strava conducted research that suggests that January 12 is the day that most people begin to give up on their new years resolutions.  That’s means we are almost reaching the weekend where our best intentions and efforts will begin to wither. 

So how do we keep our resolutions beyond January 12? Here are two tips to try:

1.         Create good goals

Goals are really hard to attain and maintain if they’re impossible to reach to begin with.  Making sure that your goal is SMART will help you keep striving towards it.  If you don’t feel a resolution is manageable or you feel you won’t ever “make it” then you won’t be likely to keep trying.  Make your resolution(s) S - specific. M – measurable. A - attainable. R - realistic. T - time-based.

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2.     Pursue accountability

Two are better than one.  There’s nothing like a friend telling you “you promised you would go on a run with me” to get you moving, especially if you’re a people-pleaser.  It’s a lot easier to brush off exercise when it’s not scheduled or planned.  Making your friends or family part of your new resolution can be beneficial.  Whether they reach out to remind you about your goal or they are your ‘workout buddy’, another person can encourage us to push on (or through) when we may not feel like it.  Maybe you’re not a people-pleaser like me so other people aren’t a good motivator.  If that’s the case, find something else that will motivate you and use it.  Maybe you’re also ‘thrifty’ like me and paying for a gym membership will encourage you to actually use the money you spent and not let it go to waste.  Find your motivator or accountability and use it to support your desire to fulfill your goals for 2019.

If you feel comfortable to share some of your resolutions from this year or year’ past feel free. Also, what are some of the ways you find help you stick to your goals?